Weddings often feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be that way.
Don’t be fooled into thinking it’s not ok to do things differently.
It’s ok to trust your heart, and your gut.
It’s ok to disregard people’s advice and not to ask for advice in the first place.
It’s ok to be unsure of your decisions.
Confidence in what you want doesn’t make you annoying.  
Choose a location for you both, not because someone told you to, or the latest trendy place that doesn't feel like “us."
Don’t stress and fuss so much about the guest list, the caterer, the venue, the vendors.  


It’s ok to enjoy the process.  It’s also ok to be frustrated.  
Spend more time with friends on your wedding day, you’ll regret it if you don’t.
Spend more time with family on your wedding day, you’ll regret it if you don’t.
Laugh with your partner.  
Smile more.
It’s ok to place more trust in others.
It’s ok not to have your ceremony in a church, if you don’t want to.
It’s ok to have your ceremony in a church, if you want to.
Food can be served any way you’d like.
People will be fine no matter what they eat, where they sit, or whom they are sitting with.  
Don’t be afraid to not cut your cake at your wedding, you’ll still be married at the end of the night.
It’s ok not to have cake.
First dance?  Sure.  
No first dance?  Sure.
Don’t be so nervous about whether the place cards were in the right place. 
Shrug shit off.  Often.


Leave town and get married somewhere you want, if that’s what you want to do.  
Don’t let someone stop you from doing what makes you happy. 
Have a large wedding with a lot of guests.
It’s ok to make decisions that make yourself happier, your partner happier, your friends happier.  
Don’t worry so much about the music if you don’t care for it.  
Don't worry so much about flowers, if you don't care for them.
Spend more time caring about the things that you feel are of value.
Spend more time looking around, taking in the day, all the people excited to see you and celebrate with you.

Step away for a bit, bring your partner, and attempt to take it all in.  

Remove the veil placed over the day by magazines, blogs, friends, family, vendors.
Don’t be afraid to strip down and bare your personalities.  Show everyone.
Remove the clutter and plan a day based upon you.  Both of you.